This is a method which also video recording of interaction between parents and children with the emphasis on positive interaction.
Positive relationships with children and teenagers are based on good communication. Looking at what works well in the family can help you to understand each other and build stronger relationships.
During the first appointment we will discuss what you would like to be different, what difficulties you are experiencing and whether VIG would be able to help. It is useful at this point to establish your aims and goals for the future.
The next appointment can be in your home to make a 10-minute of you with your child/ren. Sometimes families choose to play a game together or have a chat about something pleasant. Other families ask us to make a film about everyday things, such as cooking a meal or washing up together. It doesn’t matter what you choose, as long as there are moments when you are talking and communicating together.
Before our next meeting we will edit the film to show you the best moments. You can choose where we watch the film together. Sometimes it is easier to come to the clinic where we have access to a video recorder and remote control. We will look at the film together and identify the helpful patterns of communication known as CONTACT PRINCIPLES. This is usually with the adult members of the family, but on some occasions it is useful to have the children or teenagers there too.
Families tell us that this method is helpful, and usually want to make at least one more film so that they can learn different ways of relating together. For more information contact the Silverwood Centre.
These are the small moments of interaction in which two or more people have verbal or non-verbal contact with each other. We look first at the communication skills at the bottom of the triangle below. Families tell us that when these things are in place, their relationships improve.
Behaviour modification Distraction
Making Plans Problem Solving
Sharing and Co-operating
Following what your child is doing
Receiving your child
Friendly voice, naming what you see your child doing or feeling
Friendly body posture, smiling
Being attentive. Showing your child you are watching. Making eye contact, looking towards, paying attention.